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Sorry to hear about that mary62, I hope it all goes well. Good peer support is always important. What is the job outlook like in your part of the country?

Thanks for letting me vent. I appreciate the support. As for your comments, the job market here is good and I am already busily filling out applications so do not anticipate being out of work long. Just the bruised ego to get over.

That kind of prejudices always happens in Long Term Care. I am a CNA, and I know how it feels to be singled out. I worked long term care, right out of CNA school. I was targeted always by the charge nurse supervisor. She had it in for me, the first time I met her. She not only harrassed CNA's, but she gave new nurses a hard time. I think does kind of people, get their ego's brushed, when they have so much power to use against another person. There is a article posted on yahoo today, that says why nurses give newcomers a hard time. I think they should post a article on why are there prejudices among the nursing profession.? Good luck Mary62 on finding another better job. I know how it is to be singled out.

As a rule LTC sucks. I loved working with the elderly. I hated working with the back biters. I left a good job to accept a job as DON at an LTC. I was on the phone the second day looking for another job. Before I could find another job the administrator called me to her office and the former DON was in there with me. They told me I did not fit in. I agreed with them and booked out of there. I sent a letter to cooperate to let them know how screwed up they were.

It has been almost a year since I moved to another state after being asked to resign "it was for the best"  (DON replied).  There is some background information, but I am not sure how it all fits in, if at all that it does.  The DON's significant other was a member of my high school class.   During the company parties, he would give me a hug since we had been classmates.  I think there may have been some changes in their relationship.  For example, she was going to the gym every other day.  Let's just say the Don's significant other's name is Bob.  Bob now has his own home.  The DON has her own house also.  Do you see a connection?

Anyways, a year has passed, with me being in Nevada.  I received two offers within 5 days of arrival.  A month later, I was orienting on the telemetry unit.  With that said,  I am happy once again, my blood pressure is WNL  (it was 160/100 for over two years while working for THAT person).  Life is great.  It was the best thing I ever did.  Getting away from her probably saved me from having a stroke.  In looking back, I should have left much sooner than I actually did.  So every one keep their chins up if the same circumstance happens to you.  Remember, when one door closes, another may open and give you what you really need.

I agree with the above posts.  Hey they let you go because you didn't fit in- enough said your life would have been hell if you would have remained.  They would make sure of it.  That is basically what they were telling you.  Maybe your standards were too high for them. 

I will have to say what comes around goes around.  I have worked in the Emergency room for about 6 years now.  When I first started I really loved my head nurse.  A few years ago I was desperately looking for a new job.  I hated my job.  I didn't realize that it was my head nurse that I hated.  I lived in Limbo.  I wasn't one of her beloved friends and I wasn't one of the hated.  I received nothing.  I would get no recognition and I had to fight for anything I did get.  One day the hand of justice came and swept my head nurse and all her cronies away.  I suddenly realized it wasn't my job I hated but management.  Under new management anyone that would like increased responsibilities and knowledge is encouraged.  Her style is share the wealth- if we all pitch in it will make it easier on all of us.  I have seen so many of my coworkers grow and become more than just nurses.  It didn't happen overnight but it did happen and everyone who has stayed through the darkness is now starting to become happier. 

So my thought is be thankful for the gift they gave you- they gave you an out before they made your life hell.  Send them a thankyou note telling them they were right you were not a good fit for that job- you needed something better where people are not in high school anymore.