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Posted 4 months ago I know that nursing programs are very competitive, but I am starting to get really annoyed with the rudeness and negativity I'm finding in a lot of my classmates... I will routinely hear people say, "oh, you're not getting into the nursing program" and some girls will even avoid study groups because they'll say that they actually want other students to fail. I understand the nature of the quotas, lotteries, etc. in getting into the program, but we're all in this because we want to help people and I don't think the negativity is helping anyone. |
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| Posted 4 months ago You are right. Negativity is not helping, and it will bite negative people in the ass when they actually DO get into the program. You cannot be successful in nursing school without a support group of peers. Study groups, emotional support, and friendship are key to success. It is true that nursing programs are competitive. The one where I teach uses an entry exam, then a ranking system. Character, unfortunately, is not an issue. Lone wolves who think only of their own needs are going to run into difficulties with instructors who expect students to be team players and accountable for their own choices or actions. Keep looking for someone willing to partner with you. It may take only one. And don't listen to negative comments--consider the source. |
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| Posted 4 months ago I have never heard of this. It sounds like that TV show Survivor. You only have one person you need to worry about-YOU! Don't llisten to all that garbage. Surround yourself with positive people. Do the best that you can. You don't have time for all that nonsense. |
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| Posted 4 months ago Negativity is a very nasty mental poison. It is also a double edged sword... it has bad health effects on you and those around you. Also.... negative thinking is often miistaken for being realistic. I hope all of us can work to control the negative and the mean spirited... because ...if you are part of a team... there is no room for this negativity. |
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| Posted 4 months ago PeacefulnightOwl said: I agree I like the Acronym TEAM T ogether E veryone A chieves M ore |
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| Posted 4 months ago Remember-there's no I in team! (my son's coach use to say this ) |
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| Posted 4 months ago I see alot of that negativity in our class...people not wanting to study together to help each other, all but taking polls to see who might be the next one to drop or be excused from the program...it's awful.... |
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| Posted 4 months ago Yeah, it just really annoys me. I mean, I know that some of us will not get into the program, but I don't find myself making a mental list, "Oh, she's not going to cut it." I think some of these girls might just be insecure with their abilities and have to take it out on others. |
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| Posted 4 months ago Keep your chin up margaritka, I am not yet in a nursing program but will be on my way soon, so I don't know exactly what you're going through, but I certainly can empathize(spelling) with your annoyance towards rude,negative people. You have confidence in yourself or you wouldn't be where you are, right!!!! ;-) Unfortunately there will be mean,spiteful and just plain hateful people wherever you go, but if you don't let them bait you they will have lost their power over you. People like that actually feed and generate more hate,thus becoming more powerful when they see that they've gotten to you.My daughters step-mom is like that. I think they lash out because of jelousy, insecurities about their own skills and abilities and sadly very low self esteems. I know that doesn't make it right and it chaps my heinny that people can treat a fellow student that way!!!!!! You have my support and best wishes and probably alot of other people here feel the same way. I say HEAR-SPEAK-AND SEE NO EVIL in dealing with those that wish ill upon or around you!!!! ; ) |
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| Posted 4 months ago I started in the third semester since I am a LPN so I've come into a class that already has it's cliques and the groups are already very well established. Sometimes I think it would be nice to belong, but when I see the negative crap...I count my blessings. I got all involved during my LPN training so now I just have to make it to May and I'm done. I don't know why we have to be so negative and it is so contagious. |
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| Posted 4 months ago Well, I always feel that karma will catch up to mean , nasty, hatefilled people in time. As I said and as is reflected by all the posts.....it is better to work together and try to ignore negativity. If possible...try to inject some possitiveity in the situation as well. |
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| Posted 4 months ago Hang in there. It will all catch up with them. I do not understand why this happens but it happens in every program. Just remember what your goal is and go on. It is unfortunate that so many are going into nursing for the wrong reasons now. . . You can always get a job, you will make a lot of money. . . Makes it tough for those who are there for the right reasons. They will not stay very long. Thank goodness. Just do your best to blow off the negative vibes and keep on keeping on. Ginny |
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| Posted 4 months ago I agree with Peacefulnightowl- Try to put a positive spin on the situation.Study and encourage those that really want to be there and surround yourself with all the positive people you can find.Soon the mean girls will realize that they needed to connect with others to survive instead of being rude to others and ending up alone. It's easier to accomplish something if you feel you're supported. |
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| Posted 4 months ago I try to stay away from the "mean girls" if I can. Just avoid them. I'm pretty good at blocking someone out if I need to. |
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| Posted 4 months ago cdnurse is right. This happens in every program. I didn't noticed it that much before I got into the program, maybe because I went part-time and at night. But once I started into the program, it was awful. If you think it's bad not, wait until you actually start into a program. For some it's all about the drama. There was so ....... much drama in my class it wasn't even funny. We had girls that were already friends when they entered the program that ended up almost hating each other and stabbing each other in the back every chance they got. I feel like maybe the stress level of nursing school has something to do with it and it is very competive. I agree everyone that you should avoid all of these negative people and you know who they are. Watch what you say around them also, b/c they will turn it around on you. Just find a few friends that feel the same as you and you will know who they are too and stick with them. It is hurtful to here people talking about others that they should be supporting.
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| Posted 4 months ago I'm very fortunate with my LPN class. We all get along really well and our instructors have told us that we're the fmost fun group of students they have ever had. I think part of it is because there are only 18 students in my class. Our first semester we had a couple of girls who were negative and "mouthy". Needless to say, they didn't make it to the second semester because of their grades. I don't know why people (especially girls) have to be so "catty" sometimes. I think that it's a "girl thing". The students in our RN program are another story altogether. They bicker about wanting a seating arrangement and blah blah blah. You really have to be a team player....the health care team is exactly that... a TEAM..and every person is important...doesn't matter what your title is, you are still contributing to make the patient well. If I hear somebody talking about someone else I just stand there and kind of smile and keep my mouth shut. I act like I don't even hear them. Those people have since learned not to say anything negative around me and they don't avoid me either. I guess I've just been blessed with a really good bunch of girls (and one guy) in my class. Hang in there and keep focused on your dream! Stacie |
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| Posted 4 months ago kend,
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| Posted 4 months ago
Star,now i'm even more reluctant to go 4 my lpn.
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| Posted 4 months ago For those of you reading these posts who are considering nursing...do NOT be reluctant to get into any program because it may or may not have the cliques, cattiness, etc. Remember the reason why you want to get into nursing, and focus on the end goal. There are plenty of those out there in these programs for the right reasons...and you will find them! The ones who are in it "for the money, etc" will not last in the real world! Proof? I know a girl here in my area...used to work in the same department, another facility, that thought an RN would advance her...she graduated and got a job at the local hospital. She lasted maybe a month or so. Now she's working at a wedding boutique! |
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| Posted 4 months ago I think they do that in order to see if you listen or not you have to be very determine and head strong also to know if it's right for you that's the name of the game being postive not negative all the time trying to figure out where you stand . |
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| Posted 4 months ago Honey, what you see isn't new. Our nursing class started with 38 students. We graduated 22! That was in 1977 so, as you see, the negative attitudes are, and have always, there. Don't get bogged down in a few nasty people. Study hard, make solid friends who support you (and you do likewise) and forget the bitches! |
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| Posted 4 months ago I can't believe that they can sit up there and call themselves potential nursing students, they need to calll themselves selfish students, or better yet, player haters, the nerve of them. I always encourage my fellow classmate, like Thela, said, team work is the best, but who wants to team up with bitches!!! I am a proud mother of three beautyful daughter. I currently live in Los Angeles California. I've worked as a heathecare provider for almost 10 years. I am curently in school to pursue my MSN in nursing, and wants to work as a pediactric nurse, in public health. |
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| Posted 4 months ago THOSE WHO ANGER YOU
Let it roll down your backside like water off a duck. |
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| Posted 4 months ago I have to say I don't want anyone to be discouraged about going into nursing b/c of what may or may not happen b/t the students. You are going to find that anywhere you go and anywhere you work. After all it is an imperfect world and none of us are perfect. There are a few that think they are. Those are the ones you need to watch out for. In a way nursing school might prepare you in some way for working with nurses once you graduate. B/C you will work with people just like the people you were in school with. You can just learn how to deal with them before hand. You just have to be a good judge of character and know who you can and can't trust. Nursing school is a wonderful experience even with all the stress and drama. |
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| Posted 4 months ago vickielee1970 said: Right on Vicki,my husband anger me a lot these days,and yes he does have a leash on me,well kinda-a... |
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| Posted 4 months ago You're not by yourself. I live in Louisiana and it's like that here as well. And strangely,if you walked into another class down the hall that was a totally seperate program,you would not see or hear anything like this. For some reason nursing school has a rep for the girls being like that. And it's not so much as the competition getting in. Girls are like that after they make it in. Not talking to you,seperate little clicks,not wanting to study with,act like they dont know the answer to a question you may need help with but can explain the answer to the same exat question asked to their friends. It's all bullshit. Best advice I can give is,study hard and always read ahead,keep your focus and worry about your own and not the others,keep your faith and head up and watch ones like them drop like flies one by one from the program. |
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| Posted 3 months ago PeacefulnightOwl said: I totally absolutely agree that teamwork skills, when it comes to the patient/resident : is THE chemistry that makes the care you give trully care. It is the giving 110% , going all out, sweating, thinking the extra mile, that makes being part of a team of like - minded productivity-inspired people that somehow makes you feel like it is worth dismissing all the self-defeating crap that comes with excessive negative thinking. Although, negativity is valuable when used as part of critical thinking, it can somehow make the rationalization that "I'm just thinking realistically" can just seem like another ignorant excuse to be rude and nasty to your associates or residents/patients because in reality immature/neglective people don't CARE enough to have the mental wherewithal or mental balance required to do what it takes to find this critical skill and it always catches up with them or drags the team effort down as a result. |
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| Posted 3 months ago How bizarre. I had a completely different experience in Nursing school. There were about 72 of us in the beginning and about 47 finished. We were like a family that was going through Hell together. We tried to help each other in any way possible and felt the loss when someone failed out of the semester. I guess I should feel lucky. |
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| Posted 3 months ago RNdude said: It may be b/c you are a dude. Guys seem to be treated differently and maybe not as aware of the way other girls are treating each other. We had 2 guys in our class and can't remember anyone ever being mean to them. I think most the girls admired them for even being there. Men and women view things very differently |
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| Posted 3 months ago I agree that being negative will get you nowhere in nursing. I'm currently a nursing student and everyone I know who is doing well is really upbeat and caring about others. Getting through nursing school is NOT easy if you have to do it alone. You have to rely on your classmates and peers, just as they have to rely on you. I don't know where I'd be without the help of my nursing friends - well...I'd probably be failing!! |