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To the female professional in her SUV………

If you are going to drive like an idiot, leave the child and the car seat at home. I have no problem waiting while they cut your sorry ass out of what is left of your SUV because you were to busy on your phone to pay attention to the stopping semi in front of you. BUT, the baby that was ejected out the side rear window because you were in such a hurry you “forgot” to strap the lil one in is inexcusable. And since on the scene you failed to ask, your son died in my arms about 4mins after we lifted off.

Mick

Oh Wow, That is sad. I can't believe she didn't even ask about her son. I couldn't deal with something like this either.
I admire you for what you do.

mickey- I never got used to losing a child in our ER or PACU, whether due to disease or to trauma but I will pass on the words of my favorite attending doc- 'thank you for being here to care for God's child in their last moments on Earth and for the compassion you have shown this day" . mickey- thank you for caring for God's child and for the compassionate care in those last moments...

Geez, I can't even begin to count the dead children & babies over the last 14 years in our ED. Just the ones I've taken care of...makes me sick to think that's but a fraction. Being the pediatric "go-to" facility for the region definitely has its drawbacks. We don't have a separate ED/Trauma Center for kids. I rely on my co-workers who were in the room with me to deal with it. We cry while we're preparing them for the parents, hug each other, then go take care of all the others. Kills you when they're the same age as one of your kids.

it's the ones saved that make it all worth while

Mickey said:

the younger the child, the harder it is, add to that the stupidity of some people and it's 100fold worse.
"Sucking it up" tends to get harder to do, so you find your own "quiet time/place" and work it out. Angel eyes (CFRN) has her own spot on a stairwell landing where she sits and quietly cries. Sometimes I wish I could do that.

"if you have no feelings, you have no use being here".......................

This woman in question was more concerned about her phone than anything else, 1st responder on scene said she didn't even know what she hit.

I agree with you, DaMomb. Even though I have no children of my own, I would do EVERYTHING to protect them. I think that also she is going to have to live with the decision that she made for the rest of her life. This was PURE negligence. I hope this woman thinks next time she starts getting in her vehicle and the phone rings, I hope she thinks of the child.

I am sure the mother will be charged with vehicular homicide. I understand how Mickey feels, at least Mickey held that baby in his arms. I'm glad someone was able to. God Bless you Mickey and Angel_Eyes. It takes a special person to deal with these situations, although such things do take their toll. Just remember, a higher power has given you the capability to do what you do. I work in a nursing home, yes, these people are at the end of their lives, but sometimes when someone passes in the middle of the night and you are holding and comforting them, you wonder where are the ones they love to do this for them in their final hours???

If this mother ever comes around to her senses, she will be the one that will have to live with herself knowing her child died due to her negligence and stupidity and worrying about being on a cell phone. If that had been the case with me, I'd probably commit suicide, as I wouldn't be able to live with myself. My children always came first and foremost.

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reckless vehicular homicide was what I was told by a cop friend who did some checking. + failure to reduce speed to avoid, inattentive driving, failure to secure an infant seat, speeding.
The Dad has subpoenaed our flight records for a wrongful death suit to coincide with his divorce proceedings, of the babe's things he collected, he left a tiny stuffed animal for us to keep in our flight office, "for what you do, you deserve to remember Scott, I'm sure he remembers you".

That doesn't surprise me at all Angel_eyes as to what the mother was charged with. Kudos on the dad for the wrongful death suit as well! When you and Mickey look at the little stuffed animal, just remember that's one more angel looking over you two!