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Does your employer trust you when you tell them a family member is dead?
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Posted 3 months ago
A few months ago I overheard an administrative staff person extending sympathy to a nurse on the death of the nurse’s mother. What I heard next shocked me. The nurse was told that to be paid the bereavement leave she must have a letter from the funeral home that her mother was dead and that she was there for the funeral.
I could not help myself; I had to say something right then and there. I was told; You would be surprised how many people lie about that.” Well, yes, I would be surprised to learn that someone would lie about such a thing. However, the point is that this employer assumes that everyone would lie about momma being dead. I find it sickening that you can be trusted in life and death decisions of caring for patients but assumed a liar if you take time off to grieve.
Ginny |
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| Posted 3 months ago Has this happened to you? Ginny |
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| Posted 3 months ago Many hospitals I've worked in, it states in employee handbook one must have verification of family member death by either an obituary, funeral home letter, physician statement in order to be paid bereavement pay for time off. As a manager at one of these facilities, I saw the fraud from some of the staff happen. Deb
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| Posted 3 months ago It is sickening to me to think that someone would "fake" bereavment. Ginny |
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| Posted 3 months ago Are you kidding me? Karen Swift Jackson RN |
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| Posted 3 months ago cdnurse says ...
I'm with you, but so many things that are going on now are unbelievable. I guess management looks at death the same way as staff calling in "sick" when really they are just sick of working. They want proof. And what does that say about our society? |
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| Posted 3 months ago My facility requires proof of the death (obituary from newspaper, memorial folder from funeral home, etc) in order for bereavement pay to be allocated. It's sad to say, but I have had employees give me stories about family deaths that were totally false. How pathetic. :( ~Christina |
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| Posted 3 months ago I just can't get over tthis. Ginny |
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| Posted 3 months ago When I was 19 I had to have my gall bladder removed. I had gotten sick two weekends in a row and on the second weekend of vomiting and violent stomach pains, my parents took me to the ER where they discovered I had gall stones and my gall bladder needed to be removed. At 2am they told my parents I would have suregery the next day at 1pm. My mom called into work and said that I was having surgery and that she would not be in that day. When she went back on her next scheduled day, everything appeared to be fine, until she overheard two of her supervisors talking about how they didn't believe her story about my surgry. So she called the hospital and she got a copy of my discharge papers and the ultrasound and taped them to the door of her supervisor's office. They didn't question her ever again. |
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| Posted 3 months ago The employer I work for has an ex-employee now because of this. My girlfriends mother died, she had cancer, a few months later her father died, I believe he was mowing the yard and had a heart attack. They actually asked her to bring in both death certificates, she actually asked the Administator if she was joking and she looked right at her and said no, I am not, please provide me with death certificates in order to be paid. Taylor's Wife, Navy Wife Proud and Strong!
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| Posted 3 months ago That is aweful....it just goes to show that people obviously don't trust each other. If everyone in this world would just act like Christians things would go smoother. A good man loves God and lives well....but
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| Posted 3 months ago I agree with ya CD but it is amazing what lengths people will go these days A busy RN is here |
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| Posted 3 months ago I think because some people say there mom or grandma has died more than one time is why this started being a policy in some places. I work for the state and we have to prove kin ship and death |
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| Posted 3 months ago When my grandmother was dying from cancer I took off of work to go to the keys to be with her in the ICU. I made it there 15 minutes before she passed. We had to arrange everything and get all the family to agree on the arrangements so it took a few days before we buried her. My job called me two days after I left and asked me when I was coming back. They were short on staff, and if I needed any more time I needed to send an obituary and program from funeral. I was blown away. "There are those that look at things the way they are, and ask why? I dream of things that never were, and ask why not."
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| Posted 3 months ago I had to bring an original of my fathers death cetificate not a copy certified or otherwise, sad state of affairs.... |