NursingLink

Hello to all you fellow believers,

I have a very loaded question and need some advice....long story short, my husband and I are going through a divorce, he decided to file for bankruptsy and will not qualify if I move out with the kids. According to 3 attorneys I have spoken with, I hold all the cards in this mess. He keeps telling me that if I don't stay til the bank. is complete, I won't get child support, the kids and he will make sure I get as much debt as he can give me. (thats what I mean by I hold all the cards, none of that will happen.) I am not the type of person to want to screw people over, but he is makeing my life miserable here. I have nursing fundamentals/clinicals starting at the end of Sept, and won't be able to support myself and the kids w/out child support.

?Do I stay and put up with the crap, so that I will be guarenteed the child support etc, or do i just leave and screw him over. I don't know what to do, it is such a catch 22, I can't stand it.

Thanks to anyone willing to give their 2 cents

Cheryl

thanks for that suggestion, my question though is more of a moral, than a legal question. the attorneys say i have no obligation to help him out, and that i will get custody, and 0 debt. I don't like to be cruel and by leaving now, I save my sanity, but it would be very cruel to him and although we are divorcing, I still don't want to be mean.

I guess I dont understand. You can get a court order for child support. So I dont believe he can keep you from getting it. You have to look out for yourself. Take care of your children and yourself. If you dont, no one else will. If the debt was accumulated while you were married you will be responsible for it if he filed bankruptcy alone. I learned that the hard way. Thats how it is here in Indiana.

Thanks for all of your advice, I still feel that because of his anger issues if he doesn't get this bankruptsy filed, I will be better off putting up with things, it is just such a hard disicion. I just keep praying and waiting for the right choice.

cheryl

I cannot answer ure legal questions! 

However,   I understand totally where u are coming from.  I am divorced.  My extreemly strict fundamentalist foster father performed my wedding.  I went to Bob Jones University.  Although my ex was abusive, stole from me and other and more I was treated like I had a scarlet D on me for even thinking of leaving  divorce well...need I say more?  YOU r loved by God.  YOU must take care of yourself & your kids!  If you want to communicate with me privately let me know & I will give u my email & other info if u want someone to talk to help u get through this.